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“You’re the best.”
“A sociopath’s motive is power, control, and dominance no matter what the cost,” Zukerman says. Showering their target with compliments, such as, “you’re the best” or “you’re the most beautiful person I’ve ever seen” is just one of their go-to manipulation tricks. “They’ll often use charm to lure their targets, and it works,” she says. While this may be a sincere compliment coming from someone else, note if something doesn’t feel right or if the person is laying it on thick.
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“I want to spend every second with you.”
Another common behavior of a sociopath in a relationship is trying to separate their partner from other people, but they will do so in a way that sounds like it’s coming from a place of love. “They may isolate their partner from friends and family so that they won’t be susceptible to being questioned by anyone,” Dr. Ho says. “They may be very controlling and act like the partner is a reflection of them and therefore control all of their partner’s actions, how they dress, [and] who they spend time with.”
Keep in mind that these phrases and behaviors were provided by experts who have studied and observed sociopathic tendencies through their work. If someone you know uses these phrases, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re a sociopath. Context matters. It really depends on their motivation behind saying it, among other things. Nonetheless, it’s always a good idea to have this information so you can be aware of the warning signs. If you are worried that someone close to you is exhibiting manipulative behaviors, it may help to talk to a licensed mental health professional who can help you understand how to set the boundaries you need.
